They say a picture is worth a thousand words.
Sometimes a picture is actually worth a lot more than that.
Thirteen years ago this month, I quit a good job to stay home with my two-year-old son, Vincent.
We had moved from California to North Carolina—not for my husband’s job as most people assume when they hear we relocated cross-country, but for mine.
My husband agreed to temporarily leave work and do the stay-at-home dad thing while I brought home the bacon as a training manager for a technology company. I was pretty good at it (at first), and with my bonuses I was on target to earn about $100,000 that year. Well, I would have earned that much… had I lasted more than 9 months there.
But I didn’t.
Because in the fall of 2001, my sweet little Vincent came home from preschool with his first school pictures and everything changed.
Oh snap! We’re doing a whole week about The Mommy Wars over In The Powder Room!
This is an issue near and dear to my heart for the following reasons:
1.) I am a mom.
2.) I was a WOHM for 2.5 years, a SAHM for 10 years, and am now a part-time WAHM. (For my elderly and ESL readers those mean Work Out of the Home Mom, Stay at Home Mom, and Work at Home Mom.)
3.) Who are we kidding? These all suck to some degree, if we’re honest. So we tear each other’s choices down to justify our own tortured minds…because being responsible for the lives of these tiny humans is the most terrifying and stress inducing thing most of us will ever do. And we are women, so we fight dirty.
4.) But I’ve got a plan to end these Mommy Wars right now. Join me In The Powder Room today for the details.
See you over there, m’kay?
And bring your sense of humor, por favor.
Fondly and with no judgement,