The Bearded Iris

A Recalcitrant Wife and Mother Tells All

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3 Things for Mom

3things-badgeI’ve recently discovered a wonderful new website (just launched in January) that I’d like to point you toward today. It’s called 3 Things for Mom and its mission is to give you a unique daily blog post that’s “short enough to read over a cup of Joe,” featuring “a truth, a tip, and a find” from a different blogger every weekday.

It’s a great place to step outside of your regular blog reading routine and find new bloggers from different niches. Plus, who doesn’t love a bite-sized tip and a favorite product recommendation every day?

Lauren, the founder and editor, invited me to contribute and my guest post is up this week. I’m sharing a truth that’s been on my mind lately (Life Lessons from a Beauty Salon–New and Improved), one of my favorite kitchen tips, and a NEW tool I’ve recently discovered for removing facial hair. (No, it’s not Magic Cream…something totally different!)

You’ll get a kick out of this – the post I originally submitted had to be slightly edited for adult content. Oh, the shame! I didn’t even use any foul language, just a little sexual innuendo, but sometimes I forget that there’s a time and a place, you know? Even minus the sex joke, it must still be funny though because one of my regular readers sent me this email:

Just read 3 Things for Mom in my inbox…did not check author prior to reading…but as I was reading it, I thought, this has to be The Bearded Iris, this is hysterical!!!! ~Stephanie

So please check it out!

You can connect with Lauren and @3ThingsforMom on Twitter and Facebook too.

Have a wonderful weekend filled with great hair, neatly cut brownies, and the ability to remove your stubborn neck hair without shedding too many tears in the process.

XO,
Leslie

 

OMG. What have I done?

There is only one thing worse than accidentally giving your child a bad haircut…

 

Nature Boy, 4-years-old, the first and last time I ever cut his hair. (circa 2003)

Nature Boy, age 4, the first and last time I ever cut his hair.

 

…and that is paying someone else to give your child a bad haircut.

 

Before during and after of my son's worst haircut

 

Shhhh.

Don’t say a word.

I already know. Believe me. I know.

Even The Gatekeeper, who is truly the most stoic and level-headed of any man I know, was PISSED when he saw what that woman did to our little boy.

“Were you on your phone?! How could you not notice what she was doing?”

“No! (Maybe.) I was right there! I couldn’t tell she was going so short! And then when she started to blow it out, I just figured we could fluff it up again when we got home. I had no idea.”

I specifically asked her for a trim. I only wanted a trim. And she was the one who gave him his very first haircut several years ago.

Bucket Head's first haircut

So what if English isn’t her native language! It’s just a trim. What could go wrong? (Famous. Last. Words.) 

But when she brought him over to the cash register she said, “His hair very stubborn (sic), but I cut all the curl out for you.”

OMG. She thought she was doing me a favor…like curls were the mark of the debil.

Y’all…I have cried real tears over this. Don’t worry, never in front of him. I put on my bravest face and told him how grown-up he looked. I even secretly called his Kindergarten teacher to give her a heads-up so she wouldn’t freak the freak out when she saw him.

But my baby. My curly headed little cherub. His shining glory scattered across the barber shop linoleum.

I feel like I’ve slapped baby Jesus across the face.

It’s just hair. It will grow. At least that’s what I keep telling myself. But you see, there is a legend in my family of the time my mother cut my cousin Matt’s baby curls off and they never returned. I’m pretty sure my Aunt Debbie has never forgiven her sister for that.

And so I wait. And I pray that Bucket Head’s curls will return.

And they probably will. He’s almost six-years-old, after all. These aren’t just baby curls.

But the saddest part? (to me, anyway)…

Bucket Head LOVES his new look.

short haired Bucket Head

He asked us to buy him a comb…his very own comb. He’s never owned one before.

And we keep catching him in the mirror, combing his hair flat as a board. It’s painful to watch.

It’s actually feathered, and a little long in back. Sometimes, in certain light, he reminds me of a mini Larry Wilcox from CHiPs.

Larry Wilcox from CHiPs

He said to me, “I feel like a new man.”

I had to bite my lip to keep from laugh-crying.

“Don’t you like your curls, honey?”

“NO. I hate my curls. I hate the way people are always touching my head. I want to look like all the other boys.”

It breaks a mama’s heart, I tell you. To hear your child “hate” an integral part of their being.

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Leslie with She-Mullet, 1982.

But I feel like I have to let him explore his new look…just like my mother let me experiment with Sun-In and She-Mullets.

Of course, I was twelve, not five! I thought I had more time.

So we help Bucket Head comb his hair flat and I try my best to not touch it, even though it pains me to keep my hands to myself.

I can only wait and wonder. Will he come around? Will he learn to love his curls someday? Or will the desire to conform stifle his ability to see how perfect he already is, exactly the way God made him?

It is only hair.

Right?

Please. Save me from myself. Assuage my guilt. Tell me about the time you accidentally slammed your child’s hand in the door or Sharpied Groucho Marx eyebrows on your kid because you thought for sure they would fade away before school picture day. Tell me something. Anything, really.

Yours,
~Leslie

The one in which I pledge never to do THAT again

I’m In The Powder Room today discussing what happens when impulse control issues, fluorescent lighting, and smooth talking septuagenarian hairstylists collide.

Read Me In the Powder Room!You’ll have to read it to believe it.

See you over there? I’m the one with a bag on my head.

-Leslie

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